As a parent, you want to protect your child from unhealthy relationships. Love bombing is a manipulation tactic where someone overwhelms another person with excessive affection, gifts, and praise to gain control. It’s often used by people with narcissistic tendencies or those looking to establish power in a relationship. At first, it might seem like your child has found a perfect partner, but this can quickly turn into control, criticism, or even emotional abuse.

Signs Your Child May Be Experiencing Love Bombing

It can be difficult to distinguish between genuine affection and love bombing. Here are some red flags to look out for in your child’s relationship:

1. Excessive Compliments & Declarations of Love Too Soon – Their partner says “I love you” or calls them their soulmate within days or weeks of meeting.
2. Constant Attention & Communication – They receive non-stop texts or calls, and their partner gets upset if they don’t reply immediately.
3. Lavish Gifts & Grand Gestures – Over-the-top presents or extravagant dates that feel excessive or overwhelming.
4. Fast-Paced Relationship – Pressure to commit quickly, such as moving in together or meeting their family too soon.
5. Isolation from Friends & Family – Their partner discourages them from spending time with loved ones or makes them feel guilty for wanting space.
6. Extreme Mood Swings – Their partner is incredibly affectionate one moment and distant or critical the next.
7. Guilt-Tripping & Control – Making them feel bad for setting boundaries or doing things independently.

How to Talk to Your Child About Love Bombing

If you suspect your child is experiencing love bombing, approaching the conversation with care and support is essential. Here’s how you can help:

• Start with Open-Ended Questions – Instead of making accusations, ask how they feel about their relationship. “How do they make you feel?” or “Do you feel like you have enough time for yourself?”
• Avoid Criticising Their Partner – Criticising their partner directly may make them defensive. Instead, express your concerns by focusing on behaviours. “I’ve noticed they get upset when you don’t respond right away. Does that feel okay to you?”
• Help Them Recognise Red Flags – Gently point out signs of unhealthy behaviour and ask if they feel comfortable with the pace of the relationship.
• Reinforce Their Independence – Remind them that a healthy relationship allows for personal space, friendships, and individual growth.
• Offer Support, Not Ultimatums – Let them know you’re there for them no matter what. Avoid pressuring them to break up but emphasise that they can come to you if things feel off.

How to Support Your Child if They Are in a Love-Bombing Relationship

If your child is in a relationship that seems unhealthy, they may not be ready to leave right away. Here’s how you can support them:

1. Stay Patient & Non-Judgemental – Let them open up at their own pace without fear of punishment or shame.
2. Encourage Trusted Friendships – Help them maintain connections with friends and family who can offer perspective and support.
3. Provide Resources – Offer books, articles, or support groups that discuss healthy relationships.
4. Empower Their Choices – Instead of telling them what to do, help them explore their feelings and options.
5. Be There When They’re Ready – If they decide to leave, ensure they have a safe place to turn to and offer emotional and practical support.

As a parent, you can’t always prevent your child from experiencing difficult relationships, but you can equip them with the knowledge to recognise and avoid love bombing. By creating open communication and encouraging self-worth, you help them build the confidence to seek and maintain healthy, respectful relationships. If you need guidance, don’t hesitate to reach out to a counsellor or support organisation for help.