Talking to young people about peer pressure, consent, and personal boundaries can feel like a big responsibility, but it’s an important conversation. The key is to create a space where they feel safe, heard, and supported.

If a young person confides in you about feeling pressured, here’s how to guide them in the right direction:

1. Validate Their Feelings

Start by letting them know their feelings are completely valid. Say something like, “I’m really glad you’re talking to me about this. It’s okay to feel unsure or uncomfortable.” Reassuring them that their instincts matter helps them trust themselves.

2. Encourage Direct Communication

Help them find the words to set boundaries clearly. Encourage them to say something like, “I don’t feel comfortable with this” or “I’m not ready.” Let them know they don’t owe anyone an explanation—saying no is enough.

3. Be Someone They Can Trust

Make sure they know they can come to you without fear of judgment or punishment. If they feel safe opening up, they’re more likely to seek help when they need it.

4. Talk About Boundaries and Consent

Explain that setting boundaries is a healthy part of any relationship. Consent should be enthusiastic, mutual, and freely given—never forced or manipulated. Let them know that if someone isn’t respecting their boundaries, that’s a major red flag.

5. Help Them Identify Trusted Support Systems

Encourage them to talk to people they trust, like close friends, or family members. Sometimes just having a support system makes a huge difference in feeling confident about their choices.

6. Help Them Recognise Unhealthy Relationships

If someone is consistently pressuring them, dismissing their feelings, or making them feel guilty, it’s worth discussing whether that relationship is healthy. Respect, trust, and understanding should always be the foundation of any relationship.

7. Offer Additional Resources

Let know there are professional resources available if they need them. Hotlines, services, or even online articles can provide extra support and guidance.

As an adult, your role isn’t just to give advice but to empower young people to trust themselves, set boundaries, and recognise their worth. Reassure them that their voice matters, and no one should ever make them feel pressured into something they’re not comfortable with. With your support, they’ll gain the confidence to stand their ground and make choices that protect their well-being.